Tip. Raising children without stress – Seven rules protect the nerves of parents


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Raising children without stress – Seven rules protect the nerves of parents
Raising children is a real task and anyone who thinks that simply setting an example with good handling enough together, a lesson is taught at the latest, when the environment is gaining more and more influence on family life.
While a baby is nearly always shaped by the influences of the parental home, it already starts in kindergarten that children abschauen behaviors of other children and learn. It continues then at school and parents are constantly challenged to question their education pattern. Interestingly, it is more useful in education, if parents maintain a certain consistency. Although the offspring always whining and make comparisons to other children, a certain consistency in education has unbeatable quality.
Rule 1 – see the child as a child
Rule 2 – You always convey protection and security
Rule 3 – You blame your child for their happiness or unhappiness
Rule 4 – Let your child freedoms
Rule 5 – Give your child unconditional love
Rule 6 – Be helpful and demonstrate patience
Rule 7 – Let your child that they need

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Gut feeling contra Erziehungsratgeber, that is the recommendation that provide educational advisers increased when parents have doubts about the education of their offspring. A Kindbenötigt clear rules and the free development of the personality of the child should not be taken from the environment. If the child is permanently in between talking about when the parents call, it is no longer reasonable for example to parents for new insights and observations, in turn, to attach the explanations for why this behavior will not be tolerated. There must be a clear statement once that is addressed to the child.

Consistent behavior is the alpha and omega

Parents should distance themselves again more, not be represented as mate of the child, but clearly their opinion on the educational task. The education should not be authoritarian, but intuitively. This means in plain language that is not rigid rules should be drawn up, but that parents explain their own needs clearly. Want said parent so like phone, so there is no circumcision of the child’s personality, if this desire to be enforced considerably.

Not infrequently, but is now elected rather the way to place the call to the sleeping hours of the child and to stand instead of the child and comply with his speech need. Or – even worse – to work patiently at first and then to explode at some point. For the child such an inconsistent behavior is less comprehensible than a consistent and intuitive education.

A partnership way of dealing with the problem of telephone conversation is often tedious, pointless and also the child will see again and again an argument why his concern now just more important than the call of the parent. Who firm stand here and the child if necessary also points out of the room in order to carry out undisturbed the call can, fulfilled its job as a parent and not embarked on a partnership solution at eye level with the child.

Not view children as a partner replacement

New findings that emerge from research related to children with behavior problems, show that parents should always conduct their duties and roles as parents and children should not be used as a replacement partner. Children are not an equal partner and therefore they should not be treated as such. And who believes that a child is lucky if it gets back regularly lengthy explanations for natural processes, is wrong according to the latest fact.

Children like clean lines that allow them a certain latitude for their actions, but also it is clearly indicated, when these same limits are reached. To set these limits is the responsibility of parents. This is where parents should have the awareness that you need to set the rules.
But what then are now the seven golden rules that let parents live less stressful and children really happy, because out, make children?

Rule 1 – see the child as a child

A child should always be seen as a child and that is possible if it does not have to deal with adult problems. Whether a movie is age appropriate and why might not know if the parents just have a financial bottleneck or whether current relationship problems with parents exist – these and all other adult themes should remain such. Children need to remain unburdened by these problems. A clear statement as „the film is not suitable for you“ is sufficient and does not have to get out of hand in complicated explanations.

Rule 2 – You always convey protection and security

The second golden rule is that children should be sure about always and at all times, that parents provide them with the necessary protection. Whether this is on the road or in other risky situations, at all does not matter. Children need to feel protected by parents and not have the feeling that they are on their alone.

Rule 3 – You blame your child for their happiness or unhappiness

Rule no. 3 is that children may feel responsible for the adults or their happiness. Whether it is a difficult phase in the relationship between the parents, or the stress at work – Children take fast responsibility for these bad phases and just should not happen. Responsible parents give their children clearly understand that it is not responsible for the happiness of adults.
Rule 4 – Let your child freedoms

Rule four is that children may enjoy freedoms that pertain only to give children. Whether it’s the completely soiled pants, with the one coming from the playground or the exuberance that is often translated as silliness. Children have their age-appropriate freedoms that they can use and also should. Here the children should also be made clear that these freedoms are limited by clear boundaries, for example when it comes to security or consideration for others.
Parents need here to develop a very special flair, especially since it is often the case that a child in the family requires a particularly large child-friendly freedoms, while the other puts on these rather less value. The chance it should have but all children.

Rule 5 – Give your child unconditional love

Usually five sets clear that children have a right to love. On this love no conditions may be attached. Children will and the love of their parents must at all times be safe. For children it is extremely important to be constantly the love and attention of their parents safely. A child must meet any conditions in order to be loved, and parents should not remove the right to punish children with love withdrawal. Feeling safe in the family is the basis of development for children.

Rule 6 – Be helpful and demonstrate patience

Usually six in meaningful parenting stating that it requires many exercises before the child mastered something alone. The child has the right that parents are available to assist in the exercise of various tasks. Patience in this exercise is just as necessary as sufficient explanation for it at some point works well alone. Children also have the right to be encouraged by parents regularly to various task fulfillment. The only way to a healthy self-esteem can develop to be able to solve problems and to insert also defeats, without falling into despair.
Furthermore, it is the task of parents, again intuitively intervene if a child still exists, for example in advanced toddlers age on the teat or when suddenly the vial is demanded again or will not be left out of this even in infants age. Here parents are required to follow their intuition and also helping to grab the child under the arms, by clear rules are set up, for example, that a behavior is no longer age appropriate. This should of course be done lovingly and with much encouragement. Only in this way can progress be achieved and some children need here one or two loving impetus of the parents to deposit not age-appropriate habits.

Rule 7 – Let your child that they need

The seventh and last rule of reasonable parenting stipulates that children have a right to require parents and adults. The child should never get the feeling of having to cope with impossible tasks alone. A child feels constantly on their own and so overwhelmed, it may stop responding fearful or indifferent. Also, the learning process can only be sure that parents intervene helpfully in case of need, to promote meaningful.

Parents more parental role must become aware again

Basically appeal educationalist tend to parents to get back more of the parental role to become aware and to find out from the partnership attitude that has become established over the past years in many families. A good relationship with the child is not to embark on an equal footing and also permanently to carry on this eye-level discussions. Children need to know that parents hold the reins in his hand. From a purely authoritarian education this attitude is actually far away.

Much more this is an intuitive education, which takes place just on instinct. Many parents complain often at an advanced age of their offspring that they, for example, have the feeling that they have all too often discuss. This is where the intuition is active, but not realized in the consequence.

Comply with the seven golden rain, certainly requires just in the initial stages some courage and self-control. Who the child but only once – has taught, who makes the rules and has fully recovered the child’s trust, will feel better throughout the family life – maybe even again.

A three year old child can not decide which shoes for what temperatures are the best flat. And an elementary school student will not seek the meaning of learning in professional advancement. It just needs the guiding hand of loving parents, so that children are safe in their ever-expanding world feel, well managed and protected.

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